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Tuesday, April 19, 2016
An Ode to HMT
“It
says willing or not. What do I opt for?” asked my mother, a mere 18 year old
girl, to her brother who had accompanied her to the employment exchange. “Not
means no. Negative. So say yes. Choose Willing” was his advice to her and
perhaps the most valuable one that he has ever doled out to his elder sister.
‘Willing’ took her to HMT.
My
mother grew up in a village close to Bangalore. Second of the seven children
that my grand-parents bore, she was the first in her village to write a class
ten examination and clear it too. College looked bleak as staying put for three
to four years with relatives who lived in the city was not an option that
appealed to my grand-father. At the behest of my grand-mother whom I consider
to be one of the finest examples of a feminist, grandpa registered my mother at
the employment exchange. The forethought of seeing a financially independent
daughter made my grand-mother wage a battle for the same in what was
predominantly a patriarchal family. She is certainly the family’s
revolutionary.
The
good old days saw a lot of organizations run by the government and I shall not
be honest if I said that I am not envious of the jobs that my parents
held. Days after my mom and my uncle
returned from the city after having said ‘Willing’, a letter reached them and
welcomed my mother to HMT. Worried about the alien influences ofs the city
which would mar the innocence of his daughter, grandpa’s denial of sending her
to work was also nipped in the bud by my grand-mother. The deal was simple. She
would live with her aunt in Bangalore for a year and then they would see how
things would unfurl. Thus began her journey as an independent working woman.
She
still recounts the first day of joining Hindustan Machine Tools. She was
nervous and was accompanied by my grand-father. Things went smooth and she was
inducted into the system. My mother officially became a working woman and
stayed that way for four decades. Six months of living with her uncle and aunt
made her crave for her own space and that’s when she decided to move out and
timed it with my uncle’s arrival to Bangalore when he was recruited by ITI. I
am talking about the late sixties here.
From
then on, my mother never looked back. From being a trainee to a permanent
employee, mom and many other women and men made HMT their second home. They
worked from Monday to Saturday, had breakfast, lunch and tea served fresh and
hot, made friends, made best friends, met ends, ran lives and homes and of
course carved their own identities thanks to one employer who became synonymous
for quality. People back at the village would marvel at the golden dial HMT
watch that my mother wore on her wrist when she went visiting every weekend. A
few years later, she married dad, who worked for BEL and had us i.e. my brother
and I and it is me who has more memories of HMT second only to my mother.
As
a toddler, I was enrolled into the HMT crèche and around me were children whose
mothers worked with my mom. At seven in the morning, mom and I would be ready
at the bus stop waiting for the blue HMT bus to arrive and once it came, off we
went towards the enormous space whose belly housed us all for eight hours. I
still remember the steaming idlies available at the campus; with sumptuous
chutney that mom would feed me once we would get down from the bus. A kiss, a
hug and I would sulk for an hour after having watched my mom walk away from the
crèche. I wasn’t alone. Some were too little and cried a lot. The day went in
sleeping, waiting for mom, day dreaming, walking to a play home (we would stop
by a koi pond guarded by an iron gate waiting for a fish to fly out of water
but the ‘aaya’ never allowed us to view that phenomenal event), waiting for the
crèche helps to fetch our lunch from the factory canteen (I miss that food),
waiting for mom to arrive and finally getting dressed to go home. Like fish to
water, I would cling to my mom and would be rewarded with a juicy honey cake
for my day’s toil on our way back home. I am yet to taste a better honey cake
still.
We
grew, all of us. HMT, my mother, me and all the others who were a part of it;
but what grew by leaps and bounds was the confidence that the organization
restored every single morning in each of its employees. A pride that I have a
working mom engulfed me even at school and every single day I dreamt of being
fiercely independent like her and so had many other little girls whose moms
worked with my mother.
There
were ups and down, highs and lows but we bounced back and every time we did, we
prayed to God that he kept our pillar strong.
Other brands made an entry into the market and slowly, as is the law of
nature, the old was being replaced by the new. Innovation sometimes becomes the
mother of survival but where did we go wrong? That’s a story for another day. Mother
voluntarily retired from the organization and threw a huge party for all her
colleagues who had joined her in the same journey many years ago. Today, I dare
say that by the end of our tenure in one organization, we end up making more
acquaintances and fewer friends.
It
broke our hearts a few weeks ago when we read in the news paper that the last
functional fragment of HMT was being closed down forever. No one would wind the
clocks again. Never.
Whenever
I look at those marvelous three letters – HMT- my treasure trove of memories
hypnotize me with the aroma of those juicy honey cakes and the cackles of my
little friends at the crèche. Sometimes I wonder if they were surreal but I
know that they weren’t. These memories are a part of my past that makes up the
most of my present and future, making me the princess that I am, raised by a queen
who taught me that I am a woman and I am born to rule.
Thank
you HMT for without you, we wouldn’t be us.
Friday, February 19, 2016
The Mandi called Marriage
Before you married couples -new or not
- shoot daggers at me over the title, hear me out. I have nothing against this
institution and am a firm believer that one shouldn’t enter it if one is not
sure or ‘sorted’ about the path one has to take in life. Having said that I
shall also reiterate that the entire gamut of ‘Arranged Marriage’ has turned
into a Mandi (no reference to the
Shyam Benegal classic though sometimes I can’t but see a similarity) turning
some into traders of the best goods.
At 32, I find myself surrounded by
three kinds of people. The first type that consistently reminds me that my biological
clock is ticking and that I shouldn’t delay the matter any further. The bunch almost sounds like teleshopping
network which first tries to attract you towards the product and then scares
you by saying that the ‘stocks are limited’
The second type consists of people who
talk sense, for instance a Hindi professor who taught me at school said “Careful
when you are choosing a partner for you have to spend an entire life with him”
when I bumped into him on my way back from work. This type is armed with good
market knowledge; hence advice can be banked upon.
The third type is of course the gang
who has not an iota of concern about my future yet is curious about every move
of mine so that I can deliver fodder for thoughts and gossip sessions.
Though the ‘deliverables’ from my end
according to type 1 are at stake, I must remind this particular gang that the
clock ticking away is mine, and the predisposition of winding it or not lies
with me and nobody else. So back off if you like your molars.
I like the second type. Nobody is nosy
in that gang and they know where to draw a line. As far as the third type is
concerned, have you ever seen an independent parasite? Distance yourself and
they shall go away from you if not from the world. But do keep your eyes and
ears open for the ‘goods’ when they come in as not every trader in the ‘souk’
sells you legit ones.
I may sound harsh with this deliberate
comparison but I have every reason to do so. Having come across a few prospective grooms myself, I find my enthusiasm shrink after every encounter. Call it my misfortune
(I’d like to call it otherwise) but the few men I have spoken to have exhibited
(pseudo) liberal values and then turned cold turkey. One of them gingerly added me on Facebook to
fake keenness but his passion disappeared when he figured out that I wasn’t a
grey market customer. In short he was putting up an act to please his masters,
much against his own will.
Male bashing isn’t what I have resorted
to here in this post and I must insist that perhaps people on the other side of
the fence may have similar diatribes against my ilk but I don’t intend to speak
for them. This is my story and for once I refuse to shadow write.
I haven’t given up either. I am an
Indian woman and I know how to shop. I look for the perfect fit, durability,
warranty and unabashedly ask if the material shrinks when washed or if the
service center of the brand will help me troubleshoot errors through a phone call. I
believe in strong investments.
What I am yet to learn are bargaining
skills.
Monday, September 7, 2015
The Ideal
We are modified creatures. All of
us. Taught to behave, respond, think, react and percieve in a way which the
familiy we belong to, families we associate with and of course the society we
are a part of deem acceptable. As children, we are taught to fold our palms and
bow our heads in front of dieties in deep obeiscance, we are taught not to
question the elders who laid the foundation for the lives that we now live, we
are told that a man is a man and woman is a woman, the former a stronger sex
and the latter the weakest which does not adhere to the goddesses we worship
who without consulting their better halves held a scepter in their hands and
slaid their antagonists. We are made to believe that life consists of
milestones. We are told that the destination is what matters the most and not
the journey. We are judged if we harbour thoughts against what is instilled. As
children we go through character building routines and as adults preachy
sermons which are never tailor made.
What gets ingrained importantly
in us is a trait that forbids us from being an entity. Submission.
The more submissive we are the
more it adds to our repertoire of being well brought up children, culturally
rich and socially acceptable. Compromise is the synonym for submission. Or so
they say to deprive us of our liberty.
Why do we allow ourselves to be
defined by others? Why is a submissive being worshipped and why is a rebel an
outcast? Why is a rebel called a rebel when all she wants is to put herself
ahead of people in a few situations? To
be more specific, why should the girl give up on her passion for a boy whom she
has met and known only for a few hours? Why should she allow the reins of her
life to be handled by somebody else who would perhaps not have the forethought
of steering it in a course which she would prefer? Does she respect her
preferences at all or has she been taught not to?
Marriage sounds more like a chore
today than an institution. People claim that there’s a gaping hole in the roof
and a deep crevice in the foundation of this institution. I differ. It remains
intact but less occupied. Reasons vary from one marriage to another but some
marriages are abandoned because the act of submission became a mundane parlour
trick which loses it’s gleam and shine. The mask falls, the voice from within
cries and the submissives rise to their feet.
But some remain there.
While I sat feeling sad for the
girl, the same chavinistic voice shook me from my reverie and said “I think
it’s time you agreed on SOMEONE and got married yourself. Let’s not waste any
time here shall we?”
Sunday, December 21, 2014
We Bought a Zoo
We bought a zoo.
A zoo filled with men women and yes a few animals. We are not too sure if
the men need more cages or the women. Animals? No, they aren't harmful. They
just need some love, loads of food and some potty training. The women, ah they
need leashes to keep them tied to the corner of their cages so that they don't
claw each other apart. They will growl, throw tantrums, scowl, scream and fuss
about the plainness of the leash but we are giving them no choice. They need to
learn how to adapt. Some women will adapt but are going to try and change the
zoo but such women won't be encouraged. We like the zoo the way it is.
The men you ask?
Now, they can't be leashed as they are too strong so we have to tranquillize
them all the time. We can't risk broken cages, manipulations, coups, agitations
and a mutiny against the zoo. How do we tranquillize you ask? Booze! Plenty of
it! We add some fake ego too. Just to keep them subdued and nobody seems to
complain. They are enjoying it.
The children you
ask? Well they're outside the zoo in the world. Breathing without fear, living
with hope, laughing aloud and being children. Careless and free. That’s how
they ought to be you know.
Thursday, July 31, 2014
The Sabbatical
“Quit
your job, sit at home and hunt for another one. Every part of your soul which
seemed lost will come back to you. No need to hunt for it” was my brother’s
response when I brought up ‘Soul Searching’.
He’s
true, so true to an extent that it can be used as a ‘quotable quote’ in one of
those self-healing or motivation workshops. And if these workshops need a live
example, Je suis la.
So
far I have searched for my soul thrice - not that my life or my visage bears
any close resemblance to Voldemort who cut his soul into seven pieces and hid
them in historical artefacts to remain immortal – and it was the third time
that I was reassured that my soul was where it is supposed to be, right within
me and not anywhere else but the three sabbaticals that I took opened my eyes
wider to the world. Let me give you a very brief insight into these ‘self-imposed
breaks’.
I
finished b-school and I started working for a leading radio station. I had a
great job, a great boss, a great pay and a great life. Two and a half
years of this greatness had made me secure and confident and that’s when I decided
to venture into the wild. I quit my job without having another one in hand. I desired
a break and I got one much against the opinions that my family and my boss
housed. I made lots of plans, executed some, failed at some yet what kept me sane
was the financial planning that I was adept with. I was the ant from the ‘ant
and the grasshopper’. I had stored for the rainy day and I was warm. But like
any ant I was running short of my stock and I had to get back to the field. That’s
when my second job happened.
I
lasted there for six months. Not my fault. I went in during a time when the
organisation was a little confused about the domain they had hired some of us
to work for. Six months and I figured that drastic changes might shut that
department forever hence I quit. There again, I had saved. I had become a
robust ant.
The
third job happened and I stuck around for longer i.e. 2 and a half years. My 20’s
were soon depleting and the job did not help me feel secure. I had made new
friends, I had evolved in tastes, I had finished a few ‘phases’, going through a
few and this time around I quit as I felt I was more secure at home. I had dwelled
for too long inside ‘Bane’s Pit’ and if I wouldn’t have made a jump –with or
without a rope- I would have festered someday or the other. I made a jump, without
a rope.
It
felt great. I had come out of a muggy tunnel and the fresh air that I breathed
was a harbinger or fresh hopes. I had wind beneath my wings (I still do) and I can
pranced better than a deer. But prancing and flying would not help me make my
ends meet. I needed a job and a secure one at that. While at the helm of making
my choices to frame my future what has intrigued me is the reinforced faith in
me by people I love and the absence of those who were once upon a time inseparable.
My
family has always been supportive of every decision that I have taken. They know
that I will find a way out of this sabbatical and I am only waiting for the
right opportunity.
My
friends have stood by me, encouraging me whenever I felt low, recommending
companies, jobs and people. Some have gone to the extent of putting a kind word
on my behalf to people who might matter the most in my job hunt.
Relatives
hemmed hawed and left. I couldn’t explain what I was looking for nor did I want
them to understand anything but it’s the inseparable ones that left a lasting
impression on my soul.
I
am no longer a part of their weekend plans nor am I on their speed dials. ‘I
have been busy’ is a lame excuse I receive despite the visible display of
pseudo weekend shenanigans on social networking sites. Being frugal with my
expenses has earned me a ban from the pseudo (I dare to mention it twice in
this paragraph) high-flying ‘yo’ kind of people who once called themselves my
friends.
Peer
pressure has never affected me nor have I lived my life to please anybody else.
I don’t feel the necessity to harp about my weekday or weekend activities on a ‘Wall’
to make myself visible to people. This was a sabbatical which wasn’t planned
for and till I find another source of income, I may not visit the usual restaurants
that I frequented nor would I be seen in places where I might have to turn into
the ‘Grasshopper’. But if I am being judged by these acts of mine then I must
say, you’re judging too soon.
Pain
beyond a point makes one immune to pain itself and I have reached a point where
lightning by a passing cloud barely gives me a scratch leave alone a wound.
It
is me today; it could be you tomorrow in a sabbatical. What helps is to know
who your friends are and who aren’t, spring clean the phone list, check if you
have compromised on your values and if you have been successful in keeping your
sanity intact despite adversities and disloyalty then sit back and relax for you
don’t have to search for your soul. It is there where it has to be, within.
Oh
and you’ll get a job too.
Tuesday, March 25, 2014
Married
“Her new way of ignoring people and important issues is by burying her nose in a book”. The jibe was directed to me while I had actually buried my nose in a book. “I would have married a book if I could help it and would have been happier than your wife” was the repartee that shot out of my brain cells which eventually stayed there as I was keen upon keeping the peace and tranquillity around me intact.
True.
I bury myself a lot in books these days. I quit my job a few days back and
decided that I would take a week’s data break which meant no mails, no twitter,
no instagram and no mindless surfing. I wanted to read. More than what I am
used to. So what’s new in it you may ask but let me tell you something; when
you are surrounded by people who take it upon themselves to criticize every
atom of another person’s being and do not even once hesitate to harp about
things which might not affect them at all and might not happen at all to begin
with, you grow tired of their oration of the day to day mindless events.
I
am happy with my tech break. Honestly, nothing comes out of being there on the
‘net’ all the time. It only results in battery drain of your phone and increase
in data tariff. And nothing has come out of listening to mindless matters.
It
is not the same with books though. Every book has a story to tell and every
book lets you converse with it about the subject it is well versed at and if it
is not equipped with the same within its covers (hardbound or paperback) it
will stop talking to you unlike human beings who pretend to know everything and
make a fool out of themselves. For instance I would prefer reading a book than
talk to a cousin of mine who in sheer desperation of keeping up with the
conversation announced that she loved Sharon Stone and ‘his’ acting. She meant
it. Sorry Ms Stone.
Books
keep you company better than some men and most women. What would you prefer, a
best friend harp about her true life ‘saans bahu story’ or Candace Bushnell
talking about Sex and the City with a dash of Cosmopolitan? I can walk into a
coffee shop with a book for a date, sip a cuppa of cappuccino, read my heart
out and walk out feeling wonderful. Now I want a man to do that to me without turning
up late. Then I can consider keeping the book inside my bag.
As
much as I hate to say this but books are easy to dump. I have had blind dates
with books. What I mean is that I have walked into a book store, read the
summary and picked it up only to discover that it hasn’t lived up to its cover.
That is when I dump them, meaning I stop reading them or read them entirely for
the sake of having bought it and never go back again. Like a one night stand. I
reread a lot of the ones I love by the way.
I
have something to talk about and it goes beyond bollywood, Hollywood, current
affairs, clothes and accessories. I don’t intend to sound like a man but my
conversations have gone a level above the usual. Most often dad and I talk
about people, their adventures, their deeds and misdeeds and credit them for
who they are or were. It definitely is better than talking only about breast
implants on a leading lady and liposuction on another.
I
don’t lend books. Nobody gets to take them home. To me it is as sacrilegious as
sharing a loved one or a spouse. So don’t come home and ask to borrow. You will
see my blunt side if you do.
I
retreat to my quiet corner. I am at peace with a book. I drift to another world
away from the chaotic one I live in and I successfully have the ‘my time’
everyday which most people complain of. Look, for the rest of you it need not
be books. It could even be music. So spend half an hour before bed listening to
a CD or radio all by yourself and you will realise you sleep a better person.
I
wish I was married to a book. It would last more than the ones that happen with
humans. I love them more than kindles or any other book reading device with due
respect. Ten years from now if you find me dusting books in my own book store
don’t be surprised. Instead, stop by, say hello, buy a book and I might give
you a discount too. For you know I would not be selling books but companions
who go a long way with you than many.
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